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im 22 years old and have a 4 month old daughter with a man and we are not married. we have been trying and trying to make our relationship work but it seems things keep getting worse. he doesnt live here during the week because he works out of town, but he comes down every weekend to see us. when hes here on the weekends he still expects me to do everything and never gives me a break. hes still acting like a kid wanting to get high with his friends all the time and he says that our daughters crying is 'annoying'. he disrespects me and doesnt appreciate anything i do.... he says he cares and loves me, and sometimes i feel that he truly does, but other times i think he only cares about himself. im not sure whats keeping me around anymore... i guess its the fact that im scared to be a single mom, im scared about what other people will think, and i keep thinking that maybe oen day things will change. what are the signs of an abusive man? am i being too naive to stay in this relationship? should i leave?What is scarier...
1) Being a single mom, or
2) Having you daughter grow up with a man that has no respect for her mother. If this is how you daughter is raised she will see nothing wrong with it if men disrespect her.
I'm sorry you are going through this especially with the holidays, but it doesn't seem fair for you or your daughter to have to cater to this guy. Good luck with what you choose :)
*** I just wanted to add, that with the drug use you are taking a huge risk. If your husband ever gets caught, or your house searched for any reason, and they find drugs in the same place you daughter is, then CPS gets involved...I would personal leave him because your daughter will see that in the house and treating you disrecpect in front of your daughter and doing drugs as well it is sending wrong messages. If you decide to stay with him your friends are going to tell you to leave him because how he treats you and he has a daughter that he really don't care about if he is annoyed with her crying. So leave him and support your kid that is ther right thing to do and do not tell him that you are leaving either wait until he is at work and leave a note that way you are not going to be scared of him trying to abuse you and scare you into staying with him. You will Find someone special in your life and he will take care of your daughter just like if it was his. Good Luck never be scared to leave especial in that kind of deal,#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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